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Inspiration // Quotes

Jessica Lange x Elle Magazine - Women in Hollywood - November 2014

Gone Girl

The best way to spend a low key Saturday night is to catch up with friends over sushi and follow it with a rendezvous to the movie theater. This weekend we went to see Gone Girl. Let me tell you, what a movie! I liked it so much it makes me want to see it again. The acting was phenomenal. I’m just a little mad at myself that I didn’t read the book. I always try to read the book versions beforehand because besides getting the entire scoop which might be missing from the movie, it’s always nice to compare what your imagination had come up with vs. the director’s vision.

Anyhow, I cannot stress this enough, GO SEE THIS MOVIE. You get mindfucked for 149 minutes but you never get bored. You pretty much know the storyline by now – it’s about a couple five years into their marriage, and the wife, played by Rosamund Pike, goes missing. The husband, Ben Affleck, is the main suspect, and we basically get the whole story about their marriage through his/her perception. Not going to say much more because I don’t want to spoil it, however there are some things worth noting:

Amy is batshit crazy, but you have to give it to her, there’s not a better way than to spice things up in your marriage than by being a totally psycho bitch. This movie might actually just be a three-hour documentary exposing the truth about women. Rosamund Pike was flawless in every single way. By the way, little trivia, did you know her college boyfriend later played her love interest in Pride & Prejudice and is now married to the head of Burberry, who happens to be a man? There you go, now you have some water-cooler talk or dinner conversation for tonight. 


Ben Affleck plays his role, Nick, so on point that he is literally the definition of a husband - he doesn’t know what his wife does to keep herself busy, doesn’t know her friends, doesn’t know her blood-type. Sidenote: do I really need to know my boyfriend’s blood type because I don’t think I even know my own. Gender stereotypes are revamped throughout the movie, but I mean that is life, so whatever. And you see Ben naked, which could have been totally left out in my opinion but I guess they wanted to give their audience a big bonus.


Another bonus was Neil Patrick Harris’s full frontal. I don’t know, penises are having a moment I guess. Sidenote: I guess you shouldn’t really keep in touch with your exes after all…


Life advice in general, you want to be the kind of sibling that Nick has, Margo. When he tells her the attorney charges $100,000 as a retainer she basically tells him she will give him all the money she has to bring him close to that sum. That was a sweet scene. And she knows how to keep it real with him which is always important.


Tyler Perry is superb. I honestly didn’t know what to expect because whenever someone mentions him I think Madea, but oh wow, what a great surprise. Same with Emily Ratajkowski, she’s no longer just the girl from the “Blurred Lines” video.


Stupid neighbor will always be stupid neighbor no matter what other roles she goes off to play. Like, each time I see a promo on TV for Marry Me, I go like “ oh there’s the stupid neighbor”.



Serious brilliant brains behind this movie. Two thumbs up.

Jessica Lange - Life On Mars

Life on Mars - Jessica Lange

Currently on replay. Obsessed.

I feel like the entire world needs to see this. It happened at the premiere of American Horror Story: Freak Show - Queen Jessica Lange obvis doesn’t stop for peasants like Lea Michele and leaves her hanging at the red carpet. I live for moments like these.

Let’s be serious for a second.

In Lena Dunham’s new memoir she recounts an experience of rape that she didn’t immediately recognize as “rape”. Now you ask yourself, how can you not realize someone just raped you? It happens more often than you think. As I was reading, I could literally feel her pain through her words and felt the confusion she went through fighting her internal demons to finally arrive to the conclusion that she in fact had been raped.

Paraphrasing what she wrote, her story begins with her alone at a college party, drunk and high on Xanax and cocaine. She runs into “Barry”, who is creepy and pretty much gives her the hives as soon as she sees him. (We’ve all ran into a “Barry” at some point in our lives, so we know exactly what she’s talking about.) All the sudden she finds herself with Barry in the parking lot and it starts to get disturbing.

“I tell him to look away. I pull down my tights to pee, and he jams a few of his fingers inside me, like he’s trying to plug me up. I’m not sure whether I can’t stop it or I don’t want to”.

Next thing, Barry is leading her by the arm towards her apartment. Her friend Fred runs into her and advices her “Don’t do this” to which she slurs back “You don’t want to walk me home so just leave me alone”. And so he does, what else could he do…

Once inside her apartment she tries to mindfuck herself into thinking that everything that’s happening at that moment is her choice. Being new to sex, she repeats “This is what grown-ups do” as her mantra and talks dirty to “Barry” to further convince herself. Although she’s not herself at that moment given that she’s entirely too high and drunk, she still knows the importance of a condom, and when “Barry” shoves himself into her without protection, she freaks out and knows that’s not right. She had seen him put the condom on, but clearly he didn’t care for her or what she wanted and took it off and the next thing she knows the condom is in her roommate’s tree. The experience is so aggressive it leaves her needing medical assistance.

“I feel like there are fifty ways it’s my fault…but I also know that at no moment did I consent to being handled that way.”

I cried reading this, as I cry about anything that makes a woman vulnerable or makes her feel ashamed of who she is. In our society for some reason if you’re a girl and you’re drunk at a party dressed up provocatively seeking male attention, then somehow that translates into whatever happens to you it’s your fault because you were “asking for it”. Like, no. That’s not right. This way of thinking only leads to bigger confusion for the “victim” because how do you reconcile that you were in fact looking for attention and then ultimately got it – but in a way that you totally didn’t want it?

Lena realized that in fact she had been raped when she told the story to her girlfriend, who then horrified by what she was listening mentioned the words “You were raped”. Lena burst out laughing because it’s like all the sudden putting the pieces together and realizing that 2+2=4.

So why is this important? It’s important to know that not all rapes are the same. The idea of rape that always jumps into people’s minds is that of a total stranger jumping out of the bushes and violently pinning his victim down and assaulting her. But rapes are not like that majority of the time. Sometimes rapes are by people you know, people you trust, sometimes even your boyfriend/husband.

No matter the circumstance, it all comes down to whether it was consensual or non-consensual. If a person is impaired by alcohol, drugs, or whatever, then she can’t really say “yes”. A new law passed by California legislation states that “lack of protest or resistance does not mean consent, nor does silence mean consent.” This new law is for women who go to their universities with sexual-assault allegations. Instead of universities asking if the victim said no, they must ask whether both parties had “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity”. In my opinion this should be passed nationwide because it is a problem women face everywhere.

Society needs to stop blaming women for things done to them by sick perpetrators who are worse than scum. Just know that it’s not your fault and you can get through it. You need to raise your voice and let it be heard. It’s your body, it’s your life, and no one should ever force you to do something you’re not entirely sure of. I applaud Lena for this and for shining light on this subject that affects us all as a whole.

Side note: Since Lena wrote her memoir at age 28…is 23 too early to write mine? Does age and experiences even matter to have a memoir anymore? Can I have more than one memoir in my life? Can we just have a series of memoirs – so like summaries of different periods of our lives told in real time? Basically, long twitter posts and rants? I’m going to get started on mine…

Who wants to take a mortgage out to buy the entire Valentino Spring/Summer 2015 collection with me?

Stevie Nicks - Lady

This is officially my song. If you were to ask me how I feel about life in general at this moment, I wouldn’t be able to explain it or explain my feelings for that matter, but I would send you the link to this song. Once again, Stevie Nicks speaks to my soul and it seems like she knows exactly what I’m going through. What would we do without Stevie? I don’t want to know.

Come lately I just keep waitin’
I see nothin’ out there
The sun keeps throwin’ out the light from the clouds
But there’s no light in here
I know that things have gotta change
but how to change them isn’t clear
I’m tired of knockin’ on doors when there’s nobody there
You know I’m tired of knockin’ on doors when there’s nobody there

And the time keeps goin’ on by
And I wonder what is to become of me
And I’m unsure, I can’t see my way and he says lady you don’t have to see
And the time keeps goin’ on by
And I wonder what is to become of me
And I’m unsure, I can’t see my way and he says lady you don’t need to see
And he says lady you don’t need to see

Come lately I just keep waiting
I see nothin’ out there
The sun keeps throwin’ out its light from the clouds
But there’s no light in here
I know that things have gotta change
but how to change them isn’t clear
I’m tired of knockin’ on doors when there’s nobody there
You know I’m tired of knockin’ on doors when there’s nobody there

And the time keeps goin’ on by and I wonder what is to become of me
And I’m unsure, I can’t see my way and he said lady you don’t need to see
And the time keeps goin’ on by and I wonder what is to become of me
And I’m unsure, I can’t see my way and he says lady you don’t need to see
And the time keeps goin’ on by and I wonder what is to become of me
And I’m unsure I can’t see my way
And he says lady you don’t need to see
And he says lady you don’t need to see
And he says maybe you don’t need to see
Oh no…

Reason #289384 why Johnny Depp is awesome:

Johnny Depp always travels with a spare costume of his character Captain Jack Sparrow so that he can drop in and visit sick/dying kids in hospitals.

Good girl vibes at Giamba S/S 2015

Take a look at Robert De Niro’s new $125K/month apartment at 15 Central Park West.

I mean, my NY office alone pays him $500K per month, so I’m sure he has no problem affording this beauty. Consider our office space is half a floor and it’s in Manhattan.

Can I please be the “mysterious benefactor” in his will? Please? I mean, I’m basically a charity.